The IntentionalHusband

My Wife and I have been married for 13 years, and on the 22nd of every month, I still bring her roses and cards. Not because marriage has always been easy. Not because I got it right the first time; I didn’t. This book is about what I’ve learned about becoming the Husband my Wife deserves—and loving my Wife intentionally, consistently, and on purpose. Join the waitlist and be among the first to know when the book officially releases. And please share this post with a Husband, a man preparing to become a Husband, a potential Husband, or simply a man you care about.

Wives, this is the one to put in his hands.Husbands, this is the one to read.

Meet Gerald & Sonya

A book written from a marriage, not a theory.

Gerald didn't write The Intentional Husband from a distance. He wrote it after a failed first marriage he takes full responsibility for, and 13 years into a second one he decided to get right.

Every month on the 22nd, the day they get married, Sonya finds roses and cards and sometimes an “I Love You” gift. Sometimes at the office, sometimes in the car. Even the day after an argument. Because choosing her wasn't something he did once at an altar. It's a decision he makes again every month.

This book is that decision, written down for every Husband and Husband-to-be who's ready to love on purpose.

“No amount I spend on my Wife is a waste. My love for her will never die.”
Gerald B. Dunbar

“The wedding is one day. The covenant is a lifetime.”

Chapter 1, free in your inbox today
First to know the moment it releases on Amazon
A personal note from Gerald and one thing to try with your Wife tonight
An invitation to the virtual launch party, October 22nd 2026 at 7:00 PM ET

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Married February 22, 2013 Sonya & Gerald Dunbar

What's inside

What this book will ask of you.

Twelve short chapters in two parts: before you get married, and how to love a Wife once you have her.

Stop preparing for a wedding and start preparing for a covenant.
Treat her like your Wife before she becomes your Wife.
Heal before you marry, because unhealed men damage good women.
Give her security, not swagger.
Put the phone down. Your presence is the gift.
Date your Wife long after you marry her.
Cover her, don't compete with her. Her success is your success.

This isn't a book about being a perfect Husband. It's about being an intentional one.

Who it's for

Written for him. Often bought by her.

For him

You're disciplined at work, you show up for everything that matters, and you want to bring that same intention home. Whether you're engaged or 20 years in, this is your playbook.

For her

You've been praying he'd find a guide. Women at every conference tell Sonya, “Where do I find a Gerald?” He can't be cloned, but he wrote it all down.

Launch night

Join us live on launch night.

Thursday, October 22nd 2026 at 7:00 PM ET, on Zoom. Gerald and Sonya will share the heart behind the book and read from it live. One attendee who grabs their copy that night wins a date-night gift card. Waitlist members get the link first.

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